What Does Boss Girl Bloggers Mean To Me?

What Boss Girl Bloggers Means to Me

I’ll admit it right from the beginning… this post might get a little cheesy, (I love cheese) If you are reading my blog for the first time right now, you may not know much about me and my blogging journey. It all started back in April of 2017… almost a year ago. (holy smokes time flies!) Yes, I created my blog about 11 months ago!

BUT WHY???? …



What does boss girl bloggers mean to me? A story about finding my happiness.

Why I Created A Blog + A Little About My Past

Before I started my blog, I guess you could say I was feeling a little STUCK. You ever get into one of those “routine” lifestyles that you feel like you can’t escape, no matter how hard you try? … well that was exactly how I felt. 

I was always the girl who didn’t like to follow society’s “rule book”. I was more about going against the norm. Everyone always told me “GO TO COLLEGE, it’s the only way you’ll get by in life.” Gosh I really HATED that.

Don’t get me wrong I am not putting college down at all, for some college is necessary! For example, if you want to be a doctor or something crazy awesome like that, then YES, go to college if that is the career you want and if that makes you happy!

But for me… that’s not what I wanted at all. In fact at this point in my life 5 years ago, I didn’t know what I wanted!! I went to college for a year & absolutely HATED IT. It didn’t help that my experience was twisted from the start because I was in a forced triple room… meaning a small square dorm room with two bunk beds (3 girls sharing this one cramped room) AWFUL.

College life just wasn’t for me. I was never happy, my classes bored me, and I never had motivation to get up and go to class.

That’s when I decided it was time to drop out.(YEP. I said it. I didn’t get a college degree..) I didn’t know what I wanted and I was wasting all of this money on classes I didn’t even pay attention to. College in the states is EXPENSIVE AF. Everyone would tell me “Don’t drop out, you’re making a huge mistake.” And at the time I almost believed them, but still proceeded to do so.

AFTER THE COLLEGE DROPOUT

Now that I was out of college and living on my own I had to work EXTRA. If you didn’t already know, I have been a server/waitress for about 7-8 years now. Ever since I was 16 years old I was in the food industry.

I can promise you, serving isn’t as easy as you’d think. Sometimes you’d work 12-13 hour shifts on your feet all day, running around like a maniac with no breaks (or time to eat)! The customers you encounter can be extremely rude, but you have to continue being nice anyway because they determine your pay. (Yes, as a server I get paid from the restaurant I work at about $3.80 an hour, used to be less.) So, next time you have to tip your server think about that! Server’s rely on tips to pay their bills. I didn’t even see a pay check 80% of the time.

Needless to say, this full time serving job gets old & exhausting real quick!!! I never knew how much I’d be making when I went to work, budgeting was extremely difficult, paying bills became almost impossible (that’s how it felt) and most days I was barely eating 2 meals. 

I finally got to the point where I started to regret my choice of dropping out of college. I could tell I was depressed because the tears would come in waves and when they crashed, they crashed hard.

When you get to the lowest point in your life, you start praying real hard for something good to come your way. I knew that I didn’t want to be unhappy anymore, and I knew only I could determine my own happiness. It took a while before I realized that happiness wasn’t going to be handed to me. I had to change the way I was living my life.

ELLDUCLOS WAS BORN

Boss Girl Bloggers and why I dropped out of college to pursue my dreams

April 2017, I started a blog… (WOAH) no one saw this coming, not even me! I always loved to write, but I never thought of doing it all the time, potentially as a career and for others to see and criticize! I always used to watch youtubers and wanted to be just like them! But – I’m a bit camera shy. That’s why I thought of blogging instead.

EllDuclos was born! *If you are wondering, the meaning behind my blog name was because when I created it at the time I was AFRAID. I didn’t want those who were close to me, to find my blog. I feared they’d make fun of me, laugh, judge my content and all that Jazz.*

Fast forward a year later and YES, everyone who knows me, knows I blog! I am totally okay with it and wish I told them from the start! Did some laugh and make fun? Of course! But it makes me appreciate my content more.

Sooo… my blog was born but you are probably like, “What about Boss Girl Bloggers?” 

BOSS GIRL BLOGGERS

Oh man, where to even begin? I created Boss Girl Bloggers (an online community where female bloggers and entrepreneurs can come to connect, feel safe, get questions answered and collaborate with others.) in May 2017.

When I created Boss Girl Bloggers I did so because I wanted to meet others who had the same goals and ambitions as myself. The thing about blogging is, many do it BUT they are scattered throughout the world! I have ZERO close friends who blog. If I didn’t surround myself with like minded individuals I probably would have given up!

In the beginning I was heavily into beauty and wanted to be a “beauty blogger”. Quickly my niche changed because Boss Girl Bloggers was growing before my eyes! 500 members, 1,000 members, 5,000 members before I knew it, BGB was at 15,000 members! I was completely mind blown! I never expected my community to grow so fast! Each morning I’d wake up to hundreds of requests! Everyone was joining because they wanted to connect with other like minded individuals too! They wanted to share their journey and learn from others! And quickly I wanted to help teach them how to go after their passion, live a life they love, and learn how they can turn their passion into a career!

Almost a year later and the community is now up to 30,000 inspiring members and I couldn’t be more thankful…

What does Boss Girl Bloggers mean to me?

It means courage… I had the courage to find what REALLY makes me happy and I had the courage to pursue it. I knew that the way I was living my life wasn’t for me. I was living it to make others around me happy, but I truly wasn’t happy. I created Boss Girl Bloggers in hopes to find my own happiness and I did! I put myself out there for the world to criticize, for those close to me to judge, and I went outside of my comfort zone multiple times.

It means community & friendship… when I created boss girl bloggers I had NO idea that I would meet & talk to thousands of women around the world who are JUST LIKE ME. Who are motivated, wanting to make a change in their life, wanting to find their happiness & freedom. I have made incredible online blogger friendships and I am constantly being inspired every damn day.

It means not giving up… If I hadn’t created Boss Girl Bloggers I can probably say that my blog wouldn’t be where it is today. Boss Girl Bloggers taught me how to chase my dreams & to never hold back! You can’t let fear stop you from obtaining your happiness. There are always people waiting to see you fail BUT there are also always people that are wanting to see you succeed! The only way you can fail is if you give up.

It means going against the norm… I didn’t go to college, I don’t have a degree, I was a full time server for all of my “career” and I still hustled every day to make my dreams my reality! I created boss girl bloggers because I was tired of the society norms, being told I could only be successful if I spent hundreds and thousands of dollars on higher education. No. No. No! I will not let others determine how successful I can be. If you work hard at what you want and you learn along the way, you CAN and WILL be successful. But you have to want it bad enough because it’s not going to be easy but it will be worth it.

It means being happy & free… a 9-5 job was not the job for me, and I never thought I’d see the day where I wouldn’t have to serve. I truly thought I was going to be a server forever. But here I am… blogging…for a living! Here I am doing what makes me so so so damn happy! I am able to work from wherever I want, whenever I want. I make the rules, I make my own schedule & I decide how my life is going to go. I am in control of my own damn life and it feels so so so good! I don’t feel restricted or held back. It’s time to travel, to prosper & to truly enjoy this life for all that it has to offer. I am not a work mule and I will not live my life that way. Being creative, independent, and happy is the life that I am meant to live. 

If this is the kind of life you are meant to live to, I want you to know that it IS possible! But just like anything else you have to be dedicated to learning your passion and you have to never give up on it!


So when someone asks me what is Boss Girl Bloggers? I tell them, it’s my passion. It’s my freedom. It’s my inspiration. & it’s my creativity. 

I am so blessed to have such amazing members that make up the Boss Girl Bloggers community. If it weren’t for the amazing, inspiring, motivating, beautiful members, I would probably still be serving tables wondering how I am going to pay rent this month.

Depression is real, anxiety is real and it’s all so scary, dark & painful. Blogging & creating a community of positivity helped me get through my darkest days.

My perspective on life is forever changed. 

There’s a few ways you can live your life.. you can live it fearing your every move, worrying about what others think, living it to make others happy… OR

You can be independent, you can step outside of your comfort zone, you can believe in yourself, you can create your own happiness and you can finally put yourself first !!!!

I already made my choice… what’s yours?

 

Are you wanting to start a blog? Start Here

Read how I turned my Blog into a Career in 6 Months: HERE

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Become an ELLite to find your way to a life you love. If you are not obsessed with your life, change it.

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I'm so excited to take this journey with you! xx 



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13 Comments

  1. March 6, 2018 / 11:26 pm

    This post is great! Thanks for being so transparent!

  2. March 7, 2018 / 12:18 am

    Thank you for starting this group! I’ve learned so much from all the posts and comments.

    Sending lots of Aloha your way!
    -Alex

    • ellduclos
      Author
      March 7, 2018 / 1:55 am

      Thank you so much ! & for being a part of the community!

  3. March 7, 2018 / 12:31 am

    This is such a great, motivational post. I’ve been in your FB group for a couple months now and I read your blog all the time. You seriously inspire me and I hope I can make blogging my full-time job one day! I seriously recommend you and your blog to anyone who has questions about blogging.

    xo,
    Kristin

    http://www.kristin-marie.com

    • ellduclos
      Author
      March 7, 2018 / 1:54 am

      This just made my night! You are too sweet thank you so much!

  4. March 7, 2018 / 2:24 am

    Love, love, love this!! You are such a rockstar for believing in yourself and trusting that there are other ways to successfully play the game of life…and you’re KILLIN it!! I speak for the community when I say that we appreciate you so much and love that you have created a supportive and positive place for us creatives to hang out! Connecting in the group is one of the highlights of my day. Best wishes of course <3

    • ellduclos
      Author
      March 8, 2018 / 2:30 am

      Thank you so much!!! You’re too sweet! 😭 Thank you for being so supportive and kind!

  5. March 7, 2018 / 3:26 am

    Its crazy cause BGB means so much to me too! When i am struggling or need someone to listen i can always turn to the group, i have a friend who just asked me today what fb groups i recommend and i immediately texted her with your blog and BGB. I love how you have gone against the norms and creating the life you want despite what people may have said or thought! Thank you for having the courage and creating a space for us all to be a community!

    • ellduclos
      Author
      March 8, 2018 / 2:29 am

      This made my night! Thank you so much for the sweet words and constant support! Means the world to me!

  6. March 14, 2018 / 9:25 am

    Wow I honestly loved this post so much, it is so inspiring. I feel like my family are disappointed I didn’t go to University but I want to create something awesome myself that doesn’t require a degree!
    Boss Girl Bloggers means to me: Freedom. Just free to express ourselves in whatever way we feel and also with the potential of turning it into a career where we are free to work where and how we want and to ultimately lead down a path of financial freedom.
    I love the Facebook Group, it is always one of the first places I go to get some inspiration from the other amazing women there that are doing great things. Keep up the good work!

    • ellduclos
      Author
      March 15, 2018 / 6:38 am

      Thank you so much Lexie this just made my night! It’s so great to hear from those who are going through the same thing, and can relate to where I am coming from. It also warms my heart that you love the group! Thank you for supporting and being a part! Means the world! 💗

  7. March 28, 2018 / 8:37 pm

    Awww Ell! I love reading your posts and your story!!! You are such an inspiration to me. I can only hope that in a year from now my blog will be as badass as YOURS!!! And it’s thanks to YOU and your inspiration that I work my ass off every day reminding myself that I can be successful doing this. There is always doubt, and the thought that there are already so many blogs out there… but by you sharing your story you give me the courage to continue pursuing my passion! Rock on!!!! 🙂 <3 Ps. I went to college, got in debt.. only to land in a career that i absolutely hatedddd. Ugh! Wish I would have just blogged from the beginning 😛

    • ellduclos
      Author
      March 29, 2018 / 2:08 am

      This just made my night! Thank you so much for your sweet words. I am so happy to hear that I can be an inspiration for you to go after your dreams! I find the best way to live life is by doing what makes you happy! ALWAYS no matter what! & You will 100% absolutely KILL it in the blogging world! Just don’t give up!

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