What Boss Girl Bloggers Means to Me
I’ll admit it right from the beginning… this post might get a little cheesy, (I love cheese) If you are reading my blog for the first time right now, you may not know much about me and my blogging journey. It all started back in April of 2017… almost a year ago. (holy smokes time flies!) Yes, I created my blog about 11 months ago!
BUT WHY???? …
Why I Created A Blog + A Little About My Past
Before I started my blog, I guess you could say I was feeling a little STUCK. You ever get into one of those “routine” lifestyles that you feel like you can’t escape, no matter how hard you try? … well that was exactly how I felt.
I was always the girl who didn’t like to follow society’s “rule book”. I was more about going against the norm. Everyone always told me “GO TO COLLEGE, it’s the only way you’ll get by in life.” Gosh I really HATED that.
Don’t get me wrong I am not putting college down at all, for some college is necessary! For example, if you want to be a doctor or something crazy awesome like that, then YES, go to college if that is the career you want and if that makes you happy!
But for me… that’s not what I wanted at all. In fact at this point in my life 5 years ago, I didn’t know what I wanted!! I went to college for a year & absolutely HATED IT. It didn’t help that my experience was twisted from the start because I was in a forced triple room… meaning a small square dorm room with two bunk beds (3 girls sharing this one cramped room) AWFUL.
College life just wasn’t for me. I was never happy, my classes bored me, and I never had motivation to get up and go to class.
That’s when I decided it was time to drop out.(YEP. I said it. I didn’t get a college degree..) I didn’t know what I wanted and I was wasting all of this money on classes I didn’t even pay attention to. College in the states is EXPENSIVE AF. Everyone would tell me “Don’t drop out, you’re making a huge mistake.” And at the time I almost believed them, but still proceeded to do so.
AFTER THE COLLEGE DROPOUT
Now that I was out of college and living on my own I had to work EXTRA. If you didn’t already know, I have been a server/waitress for about 7-8 years now. Ever since I was 16 years old I was in the food industry.
I can promise you, serving isn’t as easy as you’d think. Sometimes you’d work 12-13 hour shifts on your feet all day, running around like a maniac with no breaks (or time to eat)! The customers you encounter can be extremely rude, but you have to continue being nice anyway because they determine your pay. (Yes, as a server I get paid from the restaurant I work at about $3.80 an hour, used to be less.) So, next time you have to tip your server think about that! Server’s rely on tips to pay their bills. I didn’t even see a pay check 80% of the time.
Needless to say, this full time serving job gets old & exhausting real quick!!! I never knew how much I’d be making when I went to work, budgeting was extremely difficult, paying bills became almost impossible (that’s how it felt) and most days I was barely eating 2 meals.
I finally got to the point where I started to regret my choice of dropping out of college. I could tell I was depressed because the tears would come in waves and when they crashed, they crashed hard.
When you get to the lowest point in your life, you start praying real hard for something good to come your way. I knew that I didn’t want to be unhappy anymore, and I knew only I could determine my own happiness. It took a while before I realized that happiness wasn’t going to be handed to me. I had to change the way I was living my life.
ELLDUCLOS WAS BORN
April 2017, I started a blog… (WOAH) no one saw this coming, not even me! I always loved to write, but I never thought of doing it all the time, potentially as a career and for others to see and criticize! I always used to watch youtubers and wanted to be just like them! But – I’m a bit camera shy. That’s why I thought of blogging instead.
EllDuclos was born! *If you are wondering, the meaning behind my blog name was because when I created it at the time I was AFRAID. I didn’t want those who were close to me, to find my blog. I feared they’d make fun of me, laugh, judge my content and all that Jazz.*
Fast forward a year later and YES, everyone who knows me, knows I blog! I am totally okay with it and wish I told them from the start! Did some laugh and make fun? Of course! But it makes me appreciate my content more.
Sooo… my blog was born but you are probably like, “What about Boss Girl Bloggers?”
BOSS GIRL BLOGGERS
Oh man, where to even begin? I created Boss Girl Bloggers (an online community where female bloggers and entrepreneurs can come to connect, feel safe, get questions answered and collaborate with others.) in May 2017.
When I created Boss Girl Bloggers I did so because I wanted to meet others who had the same goals and ambitions as myself. The thing about blogging is, many do it BUT they are scattered throughout the world! I have ZERO close friends who blog. If I didn’t surround myself with like minded individuals I probably would have given up!
In the beginning I was heavily into beauty and wanted to be a “beauty blogger”. Quickly my niche changed because Boss Girl Bloggers was growing before my eyes! 500 members, 1,000 members, 5,000 members before I knew it, BGB was at 15,000 members! I was completely mind blown! I never expected my community to grow so fast! Each morning I’d wake up to hundreds of requests! Everyone was joining because they wanted to connect with other like minded individuals too! They wanted to share their journey and learn from others! And quickly I wanted to help teach them how to go after their passion, live a life they love, and learn how they can turn their passion into a career!
Almost a year later and the community is now up to 30,000 inspiring members and I couldn’t be more thankful…
What does Boss Girl Bloggers mean to me?
It means courage… I had the courage to find what REALLY makes me happy and I had the courage to pursue it. I knew that the way I was living my life wasn’t for me. I was living it to make others around me happy, but I truly wasn’t happy. I created Boss Girl Bloggers in hopes to find my own happiness and I did! I put myself out there for the world to criticize, for those close to me to judge, and I went outside of my comfort zone multiple times.
It means community & friendship… when I created boss girl bloggers I had NO idea that I would meet & talk to thousands of women around the world who are JUST LIKE ME. Who are motivated, wanting to make a change in their life, wanting to find their happiness & freedom. I have made incredible online blogger friendships and I am constantly being inspired every damn day.
It means not giving up… If I hadn’t created Boss Girl Bloggers I can probably say that my blog wouldn’t be where it is today. Boss Girl Bloggers taught me how to chase my dreams & to never hold back! You can’t let fear stop you from obtaining your happiness. There are always people waiting to see you fail BUT there are also always people that are wanting to see you succeed! The only way you can fail is if you give up.
It means going against the norm… I didn’t go to college, I don’t have a degree, I was a full time server for all of my “career” and I still hustled every day to make my dreams my reality! I created boss girl bloggers because I was tired of the society norms, being told I could only be successful if I spent hundreds and thousands of dollars on higher education. No. No. No! I will not let others determine how successful I can be. If you work hard at what you want and you learn along the way, you CAN and WILL be successful. But you have to want it bad enough because it’s not going to be easy but it will be worth it.
It means being happy & free… a 9-5 job was not the job for me, and I never thought I’d see the day where I wouldn’t have to serve. I truly thought I was going to be a server forever. But here I am… blogging…for a living! Here I am doing what makes me so so so damn happy! I am able to work from wherever I want, whenever I want. I make the rules, I make my own schedule & I decide how my life is going to go. I am in control of my own damn life and it feels so so so good! I don’t feel restricted or held back. It’s time to travel, to prosper & to truly enjoy this life for all that it has to offer. I am not a work mule and I will not live my life that way. Being creative, independent, and happy is the life that I am meant to live.
If this is the kind of life you are meant to live to, I want you to know that it IS possible! But just like anything else you have to be dedicated to learning your passion and you have to never give up on it!
So when someone asks me what is Boss Girl Bloggers? I tell them, it’s my passion. It’s my freedom. It’s my inspiration. & it’s my creativity.
I am so blessed to have such amazing members that make up the Boss Girl Bloggers community. If it weren’t for the amazing, inspiring, motivating, beautiful members, I would probably still be serving tables wondering how I am going to pay rent this month.
Depression is real, anxiety is real and it’s all so scary, dark & painful. Blogging & creating a community of positivity helped me get through my darkest days.
My perspective on life is forever changed.
There’s a few ways you can live your life.. you can live it fearing your every move, worrying about what others think, living it to make others happy… OR
You can be independent, you can step outside of your comfort zone, you can believe in yourself, you can create your own happiness and you can finally put yourself first !!!!
I already made my choice… what’s yours?
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