10 Things to Remember in a Relationship…

10 Things to Remember in a Relationship…

10 Things to Remember in a Relationship

No relationship is perfect. Every relationship takes work, each and everyday. You are constantly learning something new about each other. There will be times when you may not see eye to eye and there will be times when you two may not agree. I am currently in an almost 6 year relationship and I have learned more than I thought I could along the way.

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Communication is key

There will be times when you make each other upset or maybe disagree. It is vital to make sure that you are communicating your feelings with one another. Your partner is not a mind reader. When you and your partner are feeling upset, communicate it! It’s important to always let each other know what is wrong because if you don’t, the problem may never get resolved. You can only make each other happy if you know how to.

Also try to always communicate when you are happy too. I know that my partner appreciates when I let him know just how happy I am when he does something without me asking or when I let him know I appreciate everything he has been doing. It just makes your partner feel noticed and appreciated. It also let’s your partner know what makes you happy and what you like.

 

The 5 Love Languages

If you have never heard of the five love languages then let me explain a little.

A love language is the way you “receive love.” I once read this book “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman and learned a lot!! I recommend this book to everyone. You can receive love 5 different ways; through: acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, receiving gifts, or quality time. It’s essential to figure out you and your partners love language so that you can show each other love in the correct ways.

Remember that your love language can be different than your partners. The way you enjoy receiving love is not always the same way your partner enjoys receiving love. Sometimes we forget that and instead of showing our partner love the way they want, we end up showing them love the way we want.

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Take the quiz & find out your love language here

 

Never go to bed upset 

I’ve learned that going to bed upset makes everything worse. It can be upsetting to lay next to the one you love or like a lot, knowing they are upset with you. Always communicate your problems and make sure you two can go to bed happy with each other. Not to mention going to bed upset can lead to some terrible dreams!

 

Always discuss, try not to argue

I know this can be a tricky because when we get upset we tend to raise our voices hoping to get a point across. Yelling can back fire and make a situation worse. I find that talking respectfully and discussing issues in a mild tone gets the point across much better than yelling back and forth. If you do feel as if you need to step away for a minute to collect your thoughts together, that’s fine. Make sure you are trying extremely hard not to raise your voices with one another. It will just worsen the discussion.

 

Be honest

Do not lie or try and hide anything from one another. It is important to be open and honest with your partner. If your partner finds out from another source (which he/she eventually will) it will lead to disappointment, arguments, and trust issues. Avoid this easily by being honest.

 

Show affection, keep the romance alive

Have you ever heard someone say, “Are you two still in the honeymoon phase?” I sure have. Then I find myself wondering, the honeymoon phase has to come to an end? The answer is, no, it really doesn’t. Show love and affection towards each other daily and that honeymoon phase will never end. I know some days are busier than others but, to make the effort to kiss each other day and night is quite a simple task. Don’t you think? Or even complimenting each other daily. Try to cook dinner and have a romantic night in just the two of you, once a week. Why not? Although I know with children it can be hard at times. Don’t give up though. Always kiss each other goodnight.

 

Quality time is important

It’s important to make time for one another. Life can get busy and we can get caught up in our daily routines. Set aside time where you can spend it without any company or electronic device. Do something fun or relaxing. Whatever you love to do together.

 

Go outside your comfort zone

You will appreciate keeping the relationship exciting. Go out of your comfort zones and try something new together. Whether it be a new restaurant or activity such as sky diving! (okay it doesn’t have to be that extreme, but you get my point!) It’s time to add adventure to your relationship. Have some fun!

 

Listen to and support your partner

Be your partners biggest supporter. Always listen to your partner when he/she is talking to you. Be engaged in the conversation and support your partner. If your partner is having a tough day, be there. Always try and lift one another up. You will see each other’s darkest and brightest days. It’s always nice to know you have a shoulder to lean on whenever you need it.

 

Don’t compare your relationship ever

It’s so easy to compare your relationship to someone else’s. Why is it that, as humans, we always look for more? We are never happy with what we have? Or maybe we are, we just fail to appreciate it. When you start to compare your relationship to someone else’s, you start to be unappreciative of what you have. No relationship is the same and no relationship is perfect. It may look like “Jim and Sally” have a “perfect” relationship on the outside but you don’t know what it’s really like. The only way to know, is if you were them. Focus on your relationship and the reasons why you are in it. Stop focusing on someone else’s relationship. Love what you are lucky enough to have right in front of you.


I am not here to tell anyone that their relationship is right or wrong. This is what helps me keep my relationship healthy and long lasting. Almost 7 years now (:

I hope you enjoyed!

Until next time,

xx

Ell

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33 Comments

  1. June 16, 2017 / 6:33 am

    These relationship tips are so important. Thanks for posting this!

  2. June 16, 2017 / 6:35 am

    Very True. I personally beleive things should be always kept in mind.

  3. June 16, 2017 / 6:39 am

    Love this post so much! Great tips! 👍

  4. June 16, 2017 / 6:40 am

    This post is so well written! I especially agree with the part about not going to bed upset.. so important! You should start a relationship series!

    • ellduclos
      June 16, 2017 / 7:21 am

      Thank you! I think I just might (:

  5. June 16, 2017 / 6:43 am

    Great post and it is things we all need to remember from time to time!

  6. June 16, 2017 / 6:43 am

    I love the relationship post, so accurate!

  7. June 16, 2017 / 6:55 am

    Love this post. Some really good advice here for everyone to follow. All of these tips definitely have a lasting impact on the success of any relationship. Well said 😁

  8. June 16, 2017 / 6:58 am

    Great Advice! Listening and supporting your partner is very key to a healthy relationship…thanks for this article!

  9. June 16, 2017 / 7:22 am

    Completely agree with all of this. I think we’ve gone to bed not speaking once, and it was the worst sleep ever.
    Laura x

  10. Anu
    June 16, 2017 / 7:23 am

    Well described, thanks

  11. June 16, 2017 / 7:29 am

    Well written. I love the way you have also added some resources into your article.

  12. June 16, 2017 / 7:43 am

    Absolutely love this! Although I wont be sky diving anytime soon , I do agree that you need to experience new things together as it helps you grow and evolve together!. Now five love languages is something I did not know about and its something I will be looking into a little deeper! Thankyou for this!

  13. June 16, 2017 / 8:21 am

    Great tips! I think showing affection is really so important! Nobody wants to feel like they are there anyways…

  14. June 16, 2017 / 8:41 am

    Good points. The Five Love language book is awesome! I own it and enjoyed every read!

  15. June 16, 2017 / 9:07 am

    Supporting each other is so important. A relationship is like a Team. Well written 🙂

  16. June 16, 2017 / 9:31 am

    Good stuff to remember, especially when in relationship 🙂 Thanks for these reminders 🙂

  17. June 16, 2017 / 11:48 am

    All these are really true! Communication solves almost every problem. Great writing!

  18. June 16, 2017 / 12:06 pm

    I loved the tip about never going to bed upset- my husband and I have a rule that we have to work out all our issues before bed. Life is too short to go to bed angy 🙂

  19. Anna
    June 16, 2017 / 3:54 pm

    Love the 5 Love Languages book!! A must read for every relationship!!

  20. Daniela Miovska
    June 16, 2017 / 4:33 pm

    I totaly agree this is what matters most for a healthy realtionship!

  21. June 16, 2017 / 5:12 pm

    Love this! I never go to bed angry either, it’s so important to talk things through and not carry them through. Will be using some of this advice, especially with an infant it can be so hard to make time for each other!

  22. June 16, 2017 / 7:28 pm

    All of these are spot on! Me and my sweetheart always follow the “never go to bed upset” rule. It works wonders.

  23. June 16, 2017 / 9:01 pm

    Great article, totally agree! Honesty is the first and foremost foundation material in a relationship- without it, everything becomes a lot more difficult, if not impossible.

  24. June 17, 2017 / 4:19 am

    I read the same book right before I got hitched and loved the book! I learned so much! This list is right on point! Now I just have to figure out how to “discreetly” get my hubby to ready it, lol!

  25. June 17, 2017 / 9:11 pm

    I recently heard about the love languages and it is so true – we all give and receive love in different ways and learning a bit more about what your partner wants and needs is key!

  26. June 18, 2017 / 2:09 am

    I love the 5 languages book! It’s helped me understand my husband and his needs. I agree with all your advice. Great post!

  27. June 18, 2017 / 9:14 pm

    Communication and honesty are the most important things in the world 🙂 so true! Thank you for the post 🙂

  28. Luisa
    June 18, 2017 / 11:22 pm

    These are some great tips for a long lasting relationship. I definitly believe in the 5 languages of love. It’s important to understand how another person values and accepts love.

  29. June 19, 2017 / 1:39 am

    Every. Single. One. It’s soo important to do all of these things in a relationship, and I had never heard of the 5 love languages before!! Great post 🙂

  30. June 19, 2017 / 1:16 pm

    It’s so important not to compare your relationship. When one comes from an abusive relationship, it is so difficult not to do that, but everyone should take comfort in knowing that it will get better. Thank you for sharing this. <3

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